We have all experienced it. That INTENSE feeling of pain! The feeling that your whole entire world has crashed and burned in a matter of seconds! A void inside us that just never seems to go away…no matter how hard we try. We have all felt it! We have all come face-to-face with GRIEF!
But how do we cope with it? And how do we get past it? I’ll start off by saying right away that it is NOT going to be easy. Dealing with grief takes time. And the sad part is, no one knows how long it might take. Could take a month…a year…or maybe even a decade! But eventually, we get past it. And if the grief is too strong (like the grief over losing a loved one) then we learn to ACCEPT IT!
We all know about the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. But what no one ever tells you is that sometimes, you experience ALL the stages AT THE SAME TIME!! Which just gets ridiculously confusing! And all you can do is HOPE! HOPE for things to get better…HOPE that the pain subsides…HOPE that you will be able to see the light at the end of this long and dark tunnel.
Everyone grieves differently. Some might lie in bed crying for weeks. Some might react by lashing out in anger. Some might like to take something like a sabbatical to help cure them. The point is, there is no RIGHT or WRONG when dealing with grief. Do NOT let anyone tell you that you are dealing with your grief the “wrong way.” Only YOU know the pain you are going through and only YOU know what is best for you.
You need to understand that grief is nothing to be ashamed of. Take your time in grieving. Cry how much ever you want to! Scream to the Gods above! Grieve at your own pace. It is NOT a sign of weakness. It is completely natural. Feeling grief does not mean that you aren’t a strong person. It is just something you have to deal with.
It might help to read THIS article on dealing with grief. Though it mainly talks about dealing with grief pertaining to the loss of a loved one, it might help dealing with other kinds of griefs too.
I also found this wonderful blog post about linking your grief with photography. It talks about how you can use photography as a tool to help you cope with your grief. It is a VERY interesting read and something I truly believe we should all try! [Photography need not be the only way. You could also paint, write songs, blog, or compose music….whatever you fancy]
You might also want to watch this video which has 5 tips on how to deal with grief and how to cope with it. I found it extremely enlightening and helpful.
In the meantime, it would help to know that THIS is NOT the end. It is never the end unless YOU say it is. Just KNOW that there is ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel. You might not be able to see it now…but it is there. You just have to work your way to it. Sometimes, it it necessary to break down completely in order to emerge as a stronger person. Sooner or later, the birds will start singing again. And the flowers will bloom once more.
And before you know it, you will be able to spot that faint glimmer of light at the end of the road!
Is there a way YOU deal with grief? Something small that helps you deal with the pain? Maybe a little remedy which you think helped you a great deal?
If yes, then please let me know and share it with the rest of the world! It will be extremely useful to a lot of people out there!